IDF Reservists Struggle to Adapt after Gaza: ‘I Still Feel the Sadness’

March 14, 2024

by: Amelie Botbol ~ JNS

Thursday, 14 March 2024 | “I am not exaggerating when I say that I lived through several near-death experiences. Bullets went over my head, explosions near me. I am lucky to have come out of Gaza without being injured,” Sam Sank, 33, from Tel Aviv, told JNS on Tuesday.

“Even saying that makes me feel a little guilty because so many didn’t return alive, some I knew personally. While I am happy for myself, I still feel the sadness,” he added.

Sank, an only child born and raised in London, moved to Israel at the age of 18 and joined the Paratroopers Brigade. He was one of approximately 360,000 reserve soldiers mobilized after Hamas terrorists invaded the northwestern Negev on October 7 and murdered some 1,200 people.

“I woke up to the sound of rocket sirens, turned on the news and quickly realized that Israel was at war. At 4 p.m., I was on base with my gun and equipment, ready to be deployed,” Sank said.

On October 9, Sank was sent to Kibbutz Kfar Aza to fight the terrorists who had carried out a killing spree there and were still on the loose inside the community.

“Seeing the atrocities inflicted upon the kibbutz [collective community] was a memorable experience for all the wrong reasons,” he said.

On December 3, Sank entered the Gaza Strip. He would spend the next two months there.

“We started out on the outskirts of Khan Yunis, in a rural environment and moved towards the center of the city. We spent the last week next to the refugee camps, a very dangerous and highly populated area,” he said.

From October 7 onwards, Sank was able to communicate his thoughts to his friends and family members via a WhatsApp newsletter set up and managed by his mother, Jacalyn Sank DaCosta, 57, from London.

Sank left Gaza on January 28 and informed the army of his desire to permanently hang up his boots.

“In the army, I was very open to my fellow soldiers and officers about wanting to end my miluim [reserve duty] career. I felt that way before October 7 but experiencing being at war once is enough for a lifetime,” he said.

For Sank, the first few days after being released were particularly difficult.

“I found being in Tel Aviv overwhelming,” he said. “I left my day-to-day responsibilities for four months and when I came back I suddenly had to be responsible again.

“Inside [Gaza], I had to complete my mission, stay alive and take care of myself, but I did not have to worry about work, maintaining a home or caring for my dog Pablo,” Sank continued.

Upon his official release on February 12, Sank decided to spend a month abroad.

“Being away helped with the transition. Immediately after being released [from reserve service], my friends wanted to see me. I just needed my space. I wasn’t ready to see anyone yet aside from my very close loved ones,” he said.

Now, back in Israel, he finds the feeling of normalcy most strange.

“It’s as if nothing ever happened. It’s not that I want people to treat me differently or ask about it all the time, but it’s how normal everything is that feels strange for me. What was it all for?” he wondered.

“It makes me think of a friend in my squad who was killed. I think of him more since I’m back than I did before. My head is here rather than with the rest of the soldiers in Gaza and it doesn’t sit right with me,” he continued.

Since the beginning of Israel’s ground operation targeting Hamas’s terrorist infrastructure in Gaza on October 27, 249 soldiers have been killed in action. In total, 590 IDF soldiers and reservists have been killed since October 7.

Sank said that most soldiers, himself included, did not leave Gaza feeling victorious. Instead, they are disappointed that 134 of the 253 Israelis and foreign nationals Hamas abducted to Gaza on October 7 are still in captivity.

“It was our job to release them, which we were unable to do. We did good work and fulfilled our missions but overall we felt quite disappointed,” he said.

Sank said he could not understand the widespread criticism and misconduct allegations towards the Israel Defense Force [IDF].

“I can only speak about my experience and the things I saw. My time in Gaza was recorded on my GoPro camera, which I had with me the entire time. It speaks for the way I conducted myself,” he said.

Since October 7, Sank has been vocal in the media, sharing his story and trying to depict Israeli soldiers as humans with real emotions going through the chaotic experience of war.

His media appearances led Sank to receive hate mail and be subjected to online abuse. After his release, he traveled to New York where he attended a Jewish comedy standup event with his girlfriend, Amit, and was ambushed by pro-Palestinian protesters.

“They did not know who I was or what I had done. If they did, it could have made them angrier. They followed us down the street, calling me a baby killer and a Nazi, saying they hope I die,” Sank said.

“I was genuinely more scared and felt more traumatized by this incident in New York than I felt in the entire time I spent in Gaza,” he added.

While he is concerned about the situation in places including London, New York and Paris, saying they do not seem to be safe places for Jews at the moment and even bring back memories of the Holocaust, Sank is not planning to retreat from his hasbara [public diplomacy] activities.

Sank said, “I will continue to advocate for Israel in every part of my life.”

Military Intelligence

On October 7, about 9 miles [14.4 km.] from Tel Aviv, Asaf Nissan, 34, a Channel 14 television producer and a reserve military intelligence officer, was spending the Simchat Torah [rejoicing in the Torah] holiday in Petach Tikvah, at home with his wife, Chen, 31 and baby daughter Danielle.

“As an intelligence officer, I could not do much on October 7. I was on standby. On October 9, I left my car in Herzliya and was taken on an armored bus to Sde Teman, a logistical base [located between Beersheva and the Gaza Strip],” Nissan told JNS on Wednesday.

“We were updated on the situation. There was talk of entering Gaza once devastated Israeli towns and villages were cleared of terrorists. We needed to make sure that they did not leave any bombs, mines or anything they could use against us,” he added.

As an intelligence officer who assists combat units remotely, Nissan provided intel to soldiers on the battlefield. Being at the intelligence post has its challenges in a constantly changing environment; intelligence officers must be alert at all times. Nissan spent a total of 109 days on reserve duty.

“I could not come home at all at first. My daughter is only a year and 10 months old. My wife had to handle everything by herself. She was sleeping at her parents’ house, had to wake up in the middle of the night and keep the baby occupied during the day,” he said.

“Later, because they drafted more people, we had enough manpower to figure out a proper schedule. I could come home twice or sometimes three times a week,” he added.

Reserve soldiers receive their full salaries from their employer, which is reimbursed by the National Insurance Institute. Nissan said he even received a 40% bonus while being away.

As a television producer, he did not feel he could completely disconnect even when he left the base.

“I never stop being updated about the war. I live it day in and day out. There isn’t really any sort of distance,” Nissan said.

“In my mind, I am always ready. If something happens in the north, I will go back, it’s not even a question,” he added.

Posted on March 14, 2024

Source: (Excerpt of an article originally published the Jewish News Syndicate on March 14, 2024. Time-related language has been modified to reflect our republication today. See original article at this link.)

Photo Credit: Courtesy of Sam Sank/jns.org